Question: My second-grade son tends to zip through his work at school, thus making careless mistakes. He is a bright kid who knows the material; however, he is typically the first one finished and does not take time to proof his work. His math grade on his report card was a "C" because of test grades that reflected careless work. I was a bit opposed to his entire grade being based on the tests he took. They were tests that had only six or seven questions and were based on 100 points. So, in the end his scores were not very good. When we review the material with him at home, he definitely knows it. How do we help him slow down and be more careful, and proof his work after he is done?

Answer: "Proofing" is one issue I hear about over and over. Second-graders are very concrete. When they are done they are done, and the quicker the better. It doesn't occur to them that time and attention to detail is a valuable skill. Adults need to remember that it is a learned skill and not usually a priority for children.

You might want to see if your son's teacher incorporates study and testing skills into his or her lessons. If so, what are they so you can reinforce them at home? For example, does your child's teacher go over worksheets before collecting them? This practice teaches proofing skills and one that is easily adaptable to homework. Let your son finish his homework on his own and then have him "teach you" his assignment by explaining it to you. If he notices a mistake, reinforce how great it was that he noticed and corrected it. If he doesn't see his mistake, ask him more questions that may help him discover it.

Another important issue here is anxiety. Some children rush because they are afraid of failing and doing poorly. It is like swallowing foul-tasting medicine. If you swallow fast or hold your nose, you won't taste it. Doing work quickly helps alleviate the anxious feeling of failure.

Learning should be fun, not scary. The National Association of School Psychologists has a free homework guide for parents that you can try.

Lastly, you are not likely to influence how a teacher grades, but you can support your child in developing good study habits and test taking skills, which will benefit him throughout his school career.

Debra Collins is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Debra has worked in both primary and middle schools as a school counselor. She gives workshops to teachers and students on a variety of topics concerning youth and families, and offers parenting classes and parent coaching throughout the Bay Area. Debra is also a mental health assessor for the San Francisco Unified School District. To learn more, visit her Web site.

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May 2006